How I Help Series Part 3 of 3: Not Winning At Life?

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How do I help someone who doesn’t feel like they’re succeeding in most of their life? Hello my name is Christopher Lawrence. I’m a career and whole life coach with Change My Life Coaching, and I’m going to give you an example of this. I’m going to talk about Luke. Luke was 36 years old when he came to me, and was in a job that was very unstable. It was project work, it was cyclical, and as a result of that they ended up laying off a good chunk of the company, every 6 months. Luke had been told most of his life that he was lazy. Luke is diabetic and was overweight, didn’t have many friends, and was missing some basic life skills like budgeting, and house cleaning skills. Initially when Luke came to me I couldn’t get him to focus on his career piece, because he was so anxious about getting laid off all of the time.

So the first step was to get him into a new stable position. Sometimes the ship we are on is so far under water that we don’t feel like we can even catch our breath. So the best thing to do is to grab the first ship that sails by, get on that ship so that we can breathe again, so that we can catch our breath. Even if that ship is heading in the wrong direction, at least we can catch our breath again, and that’s exactly what we did with Luke. We got him breathing again. To do this I reached into my network and I actually got Luke a job. I can’t do this for all of my clients, but in this very rare circumstance the job was a fit, and Luke was a successful candidate that was interviewed by someone in my network. So because he could breathe again, we started to work on his ideal job fit, but unfortunately again Luke wasn’t able to focus. So we had to dig into every area of his life that he felt was problematic, and getting in the way of having a good life.

We didn’t get into the past because that’s not what coaching is about, coaching is about moving forward. Needless to say, for Luke health and wellness came up, his social life came up, and cleanliness in his home came up, on top of that he had some work to do on his personal budget. We worked on all of these things over the course of about 2 years, and in that time Luke significantly reduced his insulin intake, he also lost 80 pounds. And this was as a result of the coaching but also setting Luke up with other practitioners, like personal trainers and nutritionist. Luke started a savings account and he cleaned up his home, which by the way had close to 3 tons of garbage in it. And eventually he moved into a better home, once he got his old one cleaned up and finally Luke was ready for his career, and with a tiny bit more coaching it all fell into place. Luke is now a personal trainer and he absolutely loves his job. So that’s how I help someone who doesn’t feel like they’re succeeding in most of their life.

My name is Christopher Lawrence; I’m a career and whole life coach with Change My Life Coaching. Remember come for your job, but change for your life.


Christopher is the CEO and Founder of Change My Life Coaching —  a fast growing whole-life coaching company, and the only one of it’s kind.  He is also the author of “Go Beyond Passion: Discover Your Dream Job”. Christopher spent 15+ years working in the corporate world with a plethora of industries and companies. His focus was primarily in planning, strategy, and leadership of change management and communication. Christopher is a Certified Master Coach Practitioner (CMCP), trainer and facilitator, and a passionate public speaker who truly cares about the success of each and every single person he comes into contact with. You can reach him at